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Quotes which are still true today
Too many people embark on the process of divorce without a realisation
of what it will mean to them and, more especially, to their children.
Experience shows that most people need help to cope with the effects
of divorce. Help from the legal profession, certainly. But there
are many aspects of divorce and its aftermath where neither lawyers
nor the courts can provide the answers. In the last resort it is only
the parties themselves who can do this ....
Sir John Balcombe - Appeal Court Judge
A society which desires and allows divorce on the scale now experienced
is irresponsible if it fails to provide a legal system which encourages
and helps parents to fulfil their responsibilities to protect their
There is a popular belief that children are happier if their parents
separate than if they continue to live in a family where the parents
argue or fight.
This book shows that children do not share that belief. They would
prefer to keep their parents together, even if they do not get on
with each other.
From this research an abiding impression remains of young people who
have lost some of their childhood and have grown up sad and bewildered.
Separation might have been the right remedy for the parents, but not
for the children.
``My mum didn't understand how I felt - she was too
busy being angry''.
By making joint custody orders the rule ... the law would give the
right kind of message to parents and encourage, rather than discourage,
as it does at present, sensible behaviour.
Only the principle of joint custody can emphasise the continuity of
parenting and the child's right to have two parents.
Yvette Walczak with Sheila Burns
People are now realising that a father figure is essential as a strong
fortress against delinquency.
If we debase the male in general and the father in particular for
much longer, people will seek out an alternative value system to supplant
Dr Ronald St Blaize Maloney
First published - 1990
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